Fucking up, quitting, and other thoughts about 'the work'.

Fucking up, quitting, and other thoughts about 'the work'. | freshbysian.com

So there’s this gap between where you are now, and where you want to be.

We’ll call it ‘the work’. 

There's a lot of people out there selling secrets, magic pills and fast tracks to success... and I don’t buy them for one second. Just because something worked for someone else — there are ZERO guarantees it will work for you. 

It's not easy, and it's not fast, but carving your own path and figuring shit out for yourself is the only way to do it right.

The reason I want to write about this is because I feel like it’s so much harder than we make it out to be, and I kinda wish we’d talk about it more. 

So, here’s a few thoughts about ‘the work’ ::

:: You get to define what ‘work’ means to you.

Just as we get to define our own success, I believe we get to choose what the word ‘work’ means to each of us. For some, it might be a 9-5 job with a company that you really love. For some, it might be off travelling the world blogging & documenting it as you go. For some it might simply mean doing the shit you’re called to do. 

If you get your business to a place where you only need to ‘work’ a few hours a week, then that's awesome. No one has the right to make you feel bad or guilty for doing less hours than them. 

Same goes for the opposite… If someone is really damn happy working a 9-5 job Monday - Friday, and they get to live the life they want to live, it’s not on anyone else to judge that. 

Define your own hustle. 


:: There’s a reason not everyone will get out and chase their dreams. It’s fucking hard. 

The way I look at it, it's kinda like a test. The Universe (or whatever you choose to believe in) throws the tough stuff at you, because that's where you're going to learn and grow the most. 

Every time you're faced with a big-ish decision, it's like a slap in the face asking you : how much do you want this? 

Are you willing to take giant leaps towards the unknown, with zero guarantees on what you'll learn or discover along the way? 


:: For every decision you make — ask yourself whether it aligns with your values and if it will take you closer to where you want to be. 

Learn to say NO to the stuff that will take you backwards or keep you standing still.

Say YES to the stuff that will help move you closer to where you want to be.

Imagine you’re 12 months into the future, looking back at the last year of your life. How do you want those 12 months to look? 

Another side to this is knowing when to quit something that isn't working. 

In the past 6 months or so I've ended contracts on two big Branding + Website jobs, and a couple smaller jobs, because they just weren't working. The smaller jobs were my fault for saying yes when I should have said no, and the vibe just wasn't there on the bigger projects — so we mutually decided to end the projects.

In just over 3 years of my business, I'd never had to end projects early like this, so it scared the shit out of me. It was tough and strange and scary, but in the end it was the best possible outcome for everyone. No more wasted time, energy, or money. 

Your ego probably won't like this 'quitting' thing, but you'll live. 

The hustle only matters when you're devoted to the right stuff*. Otherwise, what the fuck is the point? {Tweet this}

*'the right stuff' = the stuff that will take you closer to where you want to be.

If you're on the fence about a certain project or situation, ask yourself this question ::  

Would I feel lighter if I quit this? 


:: You're allowed to fuck up. 

You're allowed to go backwards a little.

You're allowed to take a break with no clue what's next.

You're allowed to make mistakes.

You don't need to have your shit together 24/7. 

But here's the thing :: don’t make the same mistake twice. If you mess up or lose focus, take notice of how you got there in the first place.

Re-align with what you want and get back on track as soon as you can.


:: When you’re 'in the zone', stay there for as long as you can. 

Creativity ebbs and flows.

When you’re feeling it, roll with it. Create. Write everything down. Commit. Get shit done. 

That zone won’t last forever, and when its time to chill and take a break, you’ll feel awesome having got so much of that work ‘out’ of you.

Just recently I had a massive zone where I just wanted to create shit 24/7, for about a month. I stuck with it, and although I’m kind of exhausted now, I launched two new products + came up with a whole stash of new ideas in that zone. So when I'm ready, I've got a whole bunch of ideas and plans to go back to.


:: Don’t forget to L I V E. 

You are not your job, or your business.

There’s more to life than just how we make money and serve others.

Get out and see the world. Have wild adventures. Meet people. Explore new places. Keep your mind fresh. Do what you need to do to remind yourself that the way you live your life isn’t the only way. 


:: And… don’t forget to give yourself some credit along the way. 

Chances are, when you sit down and really look at what you’ve accomplished so far, you’ll be STOKED.

Gratitude for where you are + what you have in this moment right NOW is a powerful thing. 

So... those are a few of my thoughts on 'the work'! I'd love to know what you think, or what stuff you've had to overcome to get to where you are now.

Hit me in the comments below!