Turning 26 :: A Few Things I’ve Learned About Life + Biz + Everything In Between

Turning 26 :: A Few Things I’ve Learned About Life + Biz + Everything In Between | freshbysian.com

I started writing this post a few weeks ago, but as I make a few final edits I'm watching the sunset here in Queenstown NZ, on my last day as a 25 year old.

Today is December 1st here down under, which means two things to me :: It's the first official day of Summer, and I'm gonna be another year older!

25 has been... Interesting. I think the two biggest changes for me in the last year have been in my biz, and in my health + wellness game. 

I feel more driven in what I want for my business than I have in a very long time, and I'm so fucking stoked about it. I know what I want to do and who my tribe is, and I'm on one hell of a mission to just keep creating and keep putting new stuff out into the world. 

And after committing to upping my fitness game around this time last year, I'm now the fittest I've ever been, and I'm 100% hooked on the gym. This living active thing is something I've wanted for so long, but I never really wanted it for myself. 

I see a lot of these ’30 lessons in 30 years’ type posts, and I think they’re kind of awesome. I always love reading what lessons people learn at different stages of their lives, and I’ve never officially done one of these posts myself, so I thought I’d get amongst the action and do one this year. 

I don’t know everything.

But here’s some of what I do know.

1 :: You don’t really know who you are until you leave high school and start getting amongst LIFE.

Leaving high school a year early is still, hands down, one of best decisions I’ve ever made. You kind of have to forget everything you've ever been told about 'life' and 'the real world', to figure out who YOU are and what YOU want. It's not easy. But it's the only way. 

2 :: Money is money. 

There’s more where it came from. There’s enough for everyone.

3 :: Everything is a remix. 

Nothing is 100% original. We all just take inspiration and ideas and mash them together to make them our own. But, copy cats are assholes so don’t just straight up steal other peoples work to pass off as your own. 

4 :: Labels can be a blessing and a curse.

I’d barely even heard the word introvert until a couple of years ago when I picked up the book Quiet, by Susan Cain. I always thought I was just some weirdo who preferred being a loner most of the time, so knowing there was a word for it, and that I wasn’t the only one who was a big deal for me. But at the same time I totally use it as an excuse. 

So... Labels. Use wisely. 

5 :: Those friends you meet on the internet that feel more like real friends than anyone you’ve met before? Do what you gotta do to hang out in person. 

Also, don’t stay friends with people you don’t vibe with anymore just because you feel like you ‘have to’.

6 :: Watching the news everyday can screw up your mind.  

The thing is — with standard old TV news, all they ever talk about is bad stuff. And watching that almost every day, filling your mind with all of the bad in the world, isn’t good. If big stuff happens in the world, you’ll know about it. If you want to learn about something, Google it.

It's not about being ignorant or turning a blind eye, it's about being selective of the stuff you let into your mind. 

7 :: Life is so much better when you’re active. 

Find something that will get you moving.
Learn to love the grind. 

8 :: If something really doesn’t sit right with you, speak up. 

Pick your battles, but don’t sit back in silence if you see something happening that doesn’t sit well with you. 

9 :: Facebook are jerks. 

I like Facebook for connecting with friends and for the Facebook groups, which allow me to chat with my tribe and other awesome peeps, but that’s it. They're all about the money and they don't do a lot to protect original artists and creators. Watch this video and you'll get my vibe.

10 :: Get off your fucking phone.

Nuff said.

11 :: Don’t freak out if you find your dreams + goals changing.

It happens. You chase balls-to-the-wall after something and you realise along the way that maybe that’s not what you wanted… So you pivot a little and chase something new. It is how it is. Just keep following the stoke.

12 :: It's kind of fun to do the impossible.

What's something totally ridiculous that you'd love to do in this lifetime? What happens when you start to break down that dream into actionable steps? Figure out what you want. Go make it happen. And ignore the naysayers.

13 :: Know that it doesn't have to be how it's always been.

Change your story. You are under no obligation to be the same person you were a year, a month, or even 15 minutes ago. You have the right to change. 

So, 26, Let's do this shit.